难道别的男人比我好？

五年多了。。。。五年多的时间，我还是不能让你觉得幸福或快乐。你今天向我说“你做男人，做的很失败”。这句话真的像一把锋利的刀刺进我的心。你跟别的男人就有说有笑，你还会跟我说那些男人怎么好，怎样好。。。。难道你不必考虑到我的感受吗？我真的在想，是我太差了。。。。还是别的男人比较好？。。。。。。

Please, just a while more, bear with me.....

I know you feel neglected these days, without my company, without being able to dine with me twice a week for this week. I am equally upset with myself as well, I know you will also be upset with me for going out late at night and not accompanying you when you come back home.

I don't feel good if I work late, and I don't want you to feel you are not important. You are important to me, and that's what I know as a matter of fact. I understand how you feel, you might be thinking having me as a husband, is as good as having none. Maybe you just hate to face the four walls at home, and not having me around to talk to you, not having me by you.r side.

The reason why I am working so hard, is just for one reason....and the reason is you. I have to sacrifice my time with you for now, to focus my job, the server upgrades, the projects....because I know that if I put in effort now to complete the project, I will be able to have more family time in future. I believe once the things gets more or less settled down, the projects goes smoothly, and the server upgraded, I can get to spend family time with you. Bear with me, just a few months more, I promise I will show you the results, I am trying my very best already. I am also feeling terrible inside, please have faith in me, in our relationship.

Seeing you being happy is one of my goals in life, and I really want to make it happen. Seeing you being soundly asleep, I felt I have not been a good husband. I really feel wretched, you know? How I wish I can see you smile, everyday everytime.....during our meals together....looking at you being happy just makes myself believe all the hardships I endured is worthwhile. I still remember when you are happy, you will also look so happy when you cook. I really hope the day will come soon, the day I really can spend time with you happily. I miss the times you looked when you are cooking our meals, I missed the times when you looked so happy when we are together....

你听不出吗？

今天，我原本想跟你说我在公司等你。。。。。我知道你不开心，甚至有可能是骗我说你跟朋友出去，而你是一个人在外面。我又不想打扰你，只好骗你说我去了森林大厦拿货，其实我是一个人在公司想等你逛完，等你打电话叫我跟你一起回家。不想让你难过，我只好等你。。。可是你叫我先回家，不必等你吃饭。难到你听不出我是在等你开口叫我等你一起回家吗？我会等你。。。。一直等下去。。。。。

夫妻本是同林鸟, 大难临头各自飞

"夫妻" refers "husband and wife" in chinese. It is a word with huge responsibility, which involves mutual respect, understanding, love and care. Many people do not really understand what these two words "夫妻" means. It is very easy for anyone to say he or she is married, but they do not understand the true meaning of "夫妻". Does your partner treat you with the due respect you deserved, and do you treat your partner with the due amount of respect he or she deserves?

In the current reality, lots of couples gone through divorce and they think that it is alright. Tell you something, it is wrong to even mention it is alright. Incompatibility, being the reason? Then why bother to get married or even together in the first place?

I personally feel, if one party feels only he or she should have the one one to have the final say in a relationship, without even having the basic courtesy and respect to discuss matters with the partner. Then it is better to end the relationship fast, in fact it will do both parties good. Without basic respect for your partner, you are just killing yourselves.

If you don't even have the slightest idea what I mean, then think it this way.... Are you going to scream and shout at your partner when your partner makes a mistake in future? Or are you going to be nonchalant about it, even though it is a big mistake (in your mind, you are thinking "it's not my mistake."). Are you going to do things without discussing with your partner first? Will you even try to make your partner happy or even try talking to your partner, who is upset at you (or you can't be bothered at all?). All these being mentioned in the instance that you encountered these, after you get married to your partner.....will you still have the same patience to guide and help your partner, just like when both you and partner first got in the relationship?

I am stating the above-mentioned only a few of the many instances you may encounter in life. If you are hesitant to answer or not even sure yourself, then I urged you to re-think about getting married until you are very sure yourself that you are going to be the "夫" or the "妻" who will treat your partner with mutual respect, understanding, love and care. Don't always think you can, and you will bear with you partner in life, no matter what. Forbearance, doesn't work in reality. You will get pent-up frustrated eventually. How long can a volcano hold? Forbearance does not play a part in successful marriage, al least that is what I think.

I urged everyone who read this post, to think carefully and get it straight. "Do you want to be someone's partner for life. Are you really prepared for it?" Divorce may not seem a big thing nowadays, but I wouldn't want to get married if I am not prepared for it.....I want to answer for my actions and decisions.

错错错 － 真的错了吗？？

女：
你总说 是我的错
可你自己总太过自我
争吵的时候你习惯沉默
这样怎么能揭开迷惑

男：
错错错 是我的错
热恋的时候怎么不说
生活的无奈我已好困惑
你能不能不要再罗嗦
最好沉默

男：
我们曾爱过 也哭过
好不容易 一起生活
以为我们会度过
艰难的时刻

男：
我们曾走过 也停过
彼此都那么的执着
因为相信我们的爱
从没有变过

女：
心里有什么就坦白的说
别用泪水代替诉说
男：毕竟我们都深爱过
不想再吵个你死我活

你在我身边的时候。。。我不能让你快乐吗？

没有什么能讲。。。。我怎么做。。。。都是不能让你快乐

一开始我以为爱本来会很容易
所以没有经过允许就把你放心底
直到后来有一天你和他走在一起
我才发现原来爱情不是真心就可以

我感动天感动地怎么感动不了你
明明知道没有结局却还死心塌地
我感动天感动地怎么感动不了你
总相信爱情会有奇迹都是我骗自己


以为自己不再去想你
保持不被刺痛的距离
就算早已忘了我自己
却还想要知道你的消息

苦。。。我可以一个人耐。。。痛。。。决不是我想要的。。。

苦。。。我可以一个人耐。。。痛。。。决不希望是你带给我的！你知道吗？我活着好辛苦，每次要是我做晚班，你就会大发脾气。
你刚刚打电话给我时，为何需要大声的骂人，我是做晚班。我的同事遇到问题，问我是否有办法解决，为何你要破口大骂？有这个必要吗？

这段期间我已经跟你说过，我将离开那间公司，因为要收拾东西回来，有可能会做晚。你说好。。。可是为什么你要发脾气大声骂人？电话断了线，是因为我在一个较为没有收视线的地方。打电话回给你，你却不肯听。传简讯给你，又不回复。那你想我怎样？

我遇到问题时，是希望你会稍微体凉，容忍我迟些回来，而不是听你大声骂人，大发雷霆。每次我发脾气，你就会叫我＂不要这样，想个疯子＂。试问你又有看到自己呢？我做晚了，做工作到累乐，最需要是你的关怀，不是看你发脾气骂人。一句简单的问候，我已经开心满足了。

在过两天，我就可以摆脱这里。。。为何不给我多点鼓励呢？

我回来晚了，你却把房间门锁上乐，让我无法冲凉睡觉。试问这是一个身为太太该对待老公的方式吗？你是否有尊敬过我是你老公的情分上？

我可以在外面睡，可以让蚊子咬，可是我的心是痛的。想想看什么叫＂夫妻本应以礼相待，尊重彼此？你去跟朋友玩到半夜，我有用这种方式对你吗？还是在家楼下傻傻得等你回来，接送你回家？

认真想想，是否应该这样对待我。。。