夫妻本是同林鸟, 大难临头各自飞

"夫妻" refers "husband and wife" in chinese. It is a word with huge responsibility, which involves mutual respect, understanding, love and care. Many people do not really understand what these two words "夫妻" means. It is very easy for anyone to say he or she is married, but they do not understand the true meaning of "夫妻". Does your partner treat you with the due respect you deserved, and do you treat your partner with the due amount of respect he or she deserves?

In the current reality, lots of couples gone through divorce and they think that it is alright. Tell you something, it is wrong to even mention it is alright. Incompatibility, being the reason? Then why bother to get married or even together in the first place?

I personally feel, if one party feels only he or she should have the one one to have the final say in a relationship, without even having the basic courtesy and respect to discuss matters with the partner. Then it is better to end the relationship fast, in fact it will do both parties good. Without basic respect for your partner, you are just killing yourselves.

If you don't even have the slightest idea what I mean, then think it this way.... Are you going to scream and shout at your partner when your partner makes a mistake in future? Or are you going to be nonchalant about it, even though it is a big mistake (in your mind, you are thinking "it's not my mistake."). Are you going to do things without discussing with your partner first? Will you even try to make your partner happy or even try talking to your partner, who is upset at you (or you can't be bothered at all?). All these being mentioned in the instance that you encountered these, after you get married to your partner.....will you still have the same patience to guide and help your partner, just like when both you and partner first got in the relationship?

I am stating the above-mentioned only a few of the many instances you may encounter in life. If you are hesitant to answer or not even sure yourself, then I urged you to re-think about getting married until you are very sure yourself that you are going to be the "夫" or the "妻" who will treat your partner with mutual respect, understanding, love and care. Don't always think you can, and you will bear with you partner in life, no matter what. Forbearance, doesn't work in reality. You will get pent-up frustrated eventually. How long can a volcano hold? Forbearance does not play a part in successful marriage, al least that is what I think.

I urged everyone who read this post, to think carefully and get it straight. "Do you want to be someone's partner for life. Are you really prepared for it?" Divorce may not seem a big thing nowadays, but I wouldn't want to get married if I am not prepared for it.....I want to answer for my actions and decisions.