难道别的男人比我好？

五年多了。。。。五年多的时间，我还是不能让你觉得幸福或快乐。你今天向我说“你做男人，做的很失败”。这句话真的像一把锋利的刀刺进我的心。你跟别的男人就有说有笑，你还会跟我说那些男人怎么好，怎样好。。。。难道你不必考虑到我的感受吗？我真的在想，是我太差了。。。。还是别的男人比较好？。。。。。。

Please, just a while more, bear with me.....

I know you feel neglected these days, without my company, without being able to dine with me twice a week for this week. I am equally upset with myself as well, I know you will also be upset with me for going out late at night and not accompanying you when you come back home.

I don't feel good if I work late, and I don't want you to feel you are not important. You are important to me, and that's what I know as a matter of fact. I understand how you feel, you might be thinking having me as a husband, is as good as having none. Maybe you just hate to face the four walls at home, and not having me around to talk to you, not having me by you.r side.

The reason why I am working so hard, is just for one reason....and the reason is you. I have to sacrifice my time with you for now, to focus my job, the server upgrades, the projects....because I know that if I put in effort now to complete the project, I will be able to have more family time in future. I believe once the things gets more or less settled down, the projects goes smoothly, and the server upgraded, I can get to spend family time with you. Bear with me, just a few months more, I promise I will show you the results, I am trying my very best already. I am also feeling terrible inside, please have faith in me, in our relationship.

Seeing you being happy is one of my goals in life, and I really want to make it happen. Seeing you being soundly asleep, I felt I have not been a good husband. I really feel wretched, you know? How I wish I can see you smile, everyday everytime.....during our meals together....looking at you being happy just makes myself believe all the hardships I endured is worthwhile. I still remember when you are happy, you will also look so happy when you cook. I really hope the day will come soon, the day I really can spend time with you happily. I miss the times you looked when you are cooking our meals, I missed the times when you looked so happy when we are together....

你听不出吗？

今天，我原本想跟你说我在公司等你。。。。。我知道你不开心，甚至有可能是骗我说你跟朋友出去，而你是一个人在外面。我又不想打扰你，只好骗你说我去了森林大厦拿货，其实我是一个人在公司想等你逛完，等你打电话叫我跟你一起回家。不想让你难过，我只好等你。。。可是你叫我先回家，不必等你吃饭。难到你听不出我是在等你开口叫我等你一起回家吗？我会等你。。。。一直等下去。。。。。

夫妻本是同林鸟, 大难临头各自飞

"夫妻" refers "husband and wife" in chinese. It is a word with huge responsibility, which involves mutual respect, understanding, love and care. Many people do not really understand what these two words "夫妻" means. It is very easy for anyone to say he or she is married, but they do not understand the true meaning of "夫妻". Does your partner treat you with the due respect you deserved, and do you treat your partner with the due amount of respect he or she deserves?

In the current reality, lots of couples gone through divorce and they think that it is alright. Tell you something, it is wrong to even mention it is alright. Incompatibility, being the reason? Then why bother to get married or even together in the first place?

I personally feel, if one party feels only he or she should have the one one to have the final say in a relationship, without even having the basic courtesy and respect to discuss matters with the partner. Then it is better to end the relationship fast, in fact it will do both parties good. Without basic respect for your partner, you are just killing yourselves.

If you don't even have the slightest idea what I mean, then think it this way.... Are you going to scream and shout at your partner when your partner makes a mistake in future? Or are you going to be nonchalant about it, even though it is a big mistake (in your mind, you are thinking "it's not my mistake."). Are you going to do things without discussing with your partner first? Will you even try to make your partner happy or even try talking to your partner, who is upset at you (or you can't be bothered at all?). All these being mentioned in the instance that you encountered these, after you get married to your partner.....will you still have the same patience to guide and help your partner, just like when both you and partner first got in the relationship?

I am stating the above-mentioned only a few of the many instances you may encounter in life. If you are hesitant to answer or not even sure yourself, then I urged you to re-think about getting married until you are very sure yourself that you are going to be the "夫" or the "妻" who will treat your partner with mutual respect, understanding, love and care. Don't always think you can, and you will bear with you partner in life, no matter what. Forbearance, doesn't work in reality. You will get pent-up frustrated eventually. How long can a volcano hold? Forbearance does not play a part in successful marriage, al least that is what I think.

I urged everyone who read this post, to think carefully and get it straight. "Do you want to be someone's partner for life. Are you really prepared for it?" Divorce may not seem a big thing nowadays, but I wouldn't want to get married if I am not prepared for it.....I want to answer for my actions and decisions.